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Check England's dates first. For entry at 11 or 13, they come years before the U.S. ones.

When each route asks you to act, and when your child starts.

Ages 9 to 17. England at 11 or 13: register in Year 5 or early in Year 6, tests and offers in Year 6, first day at 11 or 13. U.S. boarding schools: apply the fall before entry, usually in grade 8, first day in grade 9 at 14, or later. England at 16: register in Year 10 or early in Year 11, first day in sixth form at 16.

Children in England's Year 5 are the same age as U.S. fourth graders. Give each school your child's date of birth, and let the school work out which year your child belongs in.

Check where each route leads.

Universities ask what qualification your child finishes school with, and in which subjects.

  • U.S. boarding schoolsA U.S. high school diplomaU.S. collegesUK: Oxford also asks for APs
  • England at 11 or 13GCSEs, then A levels or the IBUK universitiesU.S. colleges
  • England at 16A levels or the IBUK universitiesU.S. colleges
  • Staying at your child's schoolYour school's own qualificationCheck each university's list

For Oxford courses that ask for A*A*A, a U.S. diploma needs four APs at 5, or three plus an SAT of 1480 or an ACT of 33. Oxford and MIT both list what they accept from each country.

Aid, visas, and moving midway

Aid for families abroad varies by school. Groton's free tuition includes families abroad; Hill usually gives international students none. In England, each school sets its own bursary rules.

Visas, if your child needs one: in the U.S., an F-1 student visa, with the school's Form I-20; in England, the Child Student visa, for ages 4 to 17.

Moving partway through a course is harder. In the U.S., check how the new school counts credits and advanced courses. In England, joining before GCSEs, or at the start of sixth form, avoids switching courses midway. Moving partway through the IB is possible, but the new school may not teach your child's subjects.

Sources are listed under “How to use this guide” below.

Aim high. Then choose the school that fits your child, not the biggest name.

In the long run, your child is better off at a good school that fits than at a top-ranked school that doesn't.

K.T., an IB student in Singapore

Her parents were drawn to famous names. Her choice was about where she would grow, not which name sounded most impressive.

ChoseChoateAlso admittedHotchkissExeterRead K.T.'s story →

T.S., after a family move

Staying at his current school was a real option. Another move made sense only because its purpose was clear.

ChoseMiltonAlso admittedLawrencevilleLake Forest AcademyRead T.S.'s story →

Our viewChoose boarding for what a school offers your child, and only if your child wants to go. A famous name isn't a reason on its own.

What these studies show, and what they don't

At Boston and New York selective public high schools, those just admitted did little better on tests or in the colleges they went to than those who only just missed. Across 33 studies, students in higher-achieving classes rated their own academic ability lower.

The Boston and New York study looked at day schools, not boarding schools, and found a few gains, such as in grade 10 English. The 33 studies measured how students rated their own ability at school, not their happiness. None of this means a selective school is wrong for your child. It means a school's name alone won't make the difference.

Sources: economics.mit.edu: Author-hosted published paper · frontiersin.org: Full meta-analysis.

Ask every school these five questions.

Under each question: one school's answer, or England's rule, so you know what a good answer sounds like.

Who can my child talk to outside the school?

England's boarding standards require each school to give boarders an independent person to talk to, from outside the school.

What happens if my child gets sick at night?

At Exeter, nurses are on duty day and night.

Where does my child go when boarders must leave for the weekend?

At Rugby, boarders go home or to a guardian for two weekends a term, called exeats.

Who can pick up my child quickly?

Taft asks every family to name an adult who can pick up their child within 48 hours, sick or well.

When can we talk in private?

In England, boarders must be able to contact family in private, at times that suit both time zones.

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